Researchers have broken up love into two main types:
* Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
* Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you. Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:Is there love at first sight?This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.Can their be love without sex?Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.Why doesn't romantic love last?Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship endsRelationships pave the way for us to recapture our wholeness by correcting the distortions of caretaking and socialization that distanced us from our original selves (when just born). It is in unconditional loving our partner, making it safe for them to open to love, letting that love sink in over time so that trust can build, that allows their fullness to come back into being, so they can feel their oneness (like the baby in the womb), their totality. ...love is the answer. It is the love we give that heals our partner, and the love we receive that heals us"Finding and keeping love is not just a romantic idea; it's crucial to our intact survival."
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